This what my husband said to his ex mistress on MSN Chat - what does this mean, just

[Hope Has A Headache]

sex or more? [History: they had a1.5 year affair which I busted in Jan 2009. He left her on my request, and it took all of 3 weeks to go back to her and start asking her back, she said no this time, then she found a new man in May, at which point my husband stopped talking to her for 3 months. This week he has recontacted her just when I thought all was OK again.]

Ok so this was their IM conversation of today.

He told her he WANTED to give her his number but couldn't. He used to have 2 phones (one for her, which I smashed) and he said he "can't" give her the main one until he's 100% sure he can trust her.

He said he has kept HER number and if he can see her during the day, he'll call her to arrange it FROM A PHONE BOX & reverse the charges to her. That way her number won't show up on his phone bill, "cos Hope checks it"!

He said "when things calm down, I'll come and see you in your new flat - THAT'S HOW IT WILL WORK" (can you believe that?)

She said "but we're not having sex again, you know that".

He seemed upset by this, he wrote a sad face. He came back to it later.

He said "you're like me when it comes to sex...like a guy..!"

He said "we're a couple of sex freaks arent we".

She said "yeah well no sex".

He said "are you sure? Think about it".

She finally said "maybe then" (the sl*ut!)

They basically arranged that when she moves into her new house, he will come and see her, and they will be having sex "if all goes well and we can trust each other".

When they said bye, he said "sik you later!" which was their old joke - "SIK" in our language means "fcuk" and he used to say it to her as a play on "SEE you later". So, THAT was worrying.

Oh and he also said "I wish I could give you what you want" - to which she said "well I found someone who can, so don't worry!"

He also said "It cant be like before....but I WILL call and email you when I can get the time to see you".

"I do WANT to see you when I can - why cant you understand that it isnt my choice if I cant see you?"

He also said that whenever he 'misses' her, he'll call her to meet...so he wants the power.

One thing he did say was that he was an "as$hole" when he had the relationship with her last year, and won't leave me - but obviously I am not enough for him if he is arranging things with her?

That was pretty much it.

If he wanted her he COULD have her, right? WE dont have kids, and I have a feeling her 'marriage' isnt all that special to her.

 

[Christopher A]

What does it say about you when you spy on his messages. Seems there are some real trust issues involved here. Or, quite possibly, he wants to get caught because he wants out of the relationship he has with you.